All spiritual laws exists as a form of dichotomy – as dual, opposing and complimentary – they provide a range of expression that has what I call a “fine line”. The fine line exists in our ability to conceive of them, especially in terms of practical application as a means of creating experiences by using them intentionally. We hold up an idea that seems contradictory to our life experiences, yet a part of us knows they are meaningful and that they hold within their seemingly illusive nature a kind of secret that if penetrated, would offer us tools to help demonstrate them with greater precision and accuracy. As we begin “thinking” about it, we realize that we can’t fully comprehend it conceptually, but instead must perceive it intuitively. The actual “workings” of it seem almost magical in the sense that we can watch it and witness its results, but we can’t really seem to actually explain it, or understand what it’s doing or how it’s doing it.
This is very true when it comes to ideas like the futility of effort, or how, by trying to figure out what we need, and what we need to do to make it happen, we literally push the real solutions further away from us, or find that they elude us completely. Part of this is due to the fact that whenever we try to “figure something out”, all we really have reference to is our past memories and experiences and when we bring them forward in an attempt to piece them together differently in trying to form a new idea and then develop a strategy for getting it because of imagining what we need but don’t have already, we look outside our self and take an attitude of going out and getting it. We try to find it first, and then apprehend it. We focus on and create a reality out of what’s missing, and then create experiences of it.
Even if we do find what matches our idea of what we need, regardless of what we expose ourselves to, it usually ends up mocking the past experiences that we referenced in an attempt to remodel that which originated the feelings of lack and emptiness that we now seek to fill. They simply recreate the same type of experiences that cause us to feel the same way. Because our idea emerged as an expression of absence and past ideas that would “fill” that absence, we simply create more of what leaves us feeling empty and wanting.
When we simply accept our situation just as it is, settle into it and focus our attention on what we have and love and then engage in “doing” that, we naturally create an experience of fulfillment. We open and allow things that will give us that type of “feeling experience” to come into our life. It does this in a seemingly magical way because it takes no effort what-so-ever on our part. Yet part of the significance lies in the fact that whatever “state-of-mind” we inhabit, determines not only what we attract, but more importantly what we are able to see as a result. All we have to do is notice what is already there, turn and begin interacting with it and allow it to emerge as a natural experience that takes on a life of its own. When we do this we realize that it is not a repeated pattern of the past that will create more emptiness . . . . but rather a brand new idea that attracted to us because we created a state of giving our full attention to what we love and what was present with us in the moment. Because of this, it creates immediately in such a way that causes more of the same feelings . . . love and fulfillment.
To accept is to quit resisting. To quit resisting is to divert your attention away from what is missing and onto what is present. When we fail to accept things in our life as they are, we imagine the need to change them. By perceiving this lack and then thinking about filling it with something out there, it causes us to not be present with what is. Our only true creative ability lies in what is present with us in every moment. The feeling that we allow to inhabit us becomes the motivating force that hooked up with the concept of “lack” and creates experiences that express lack. This is a fundamental understanding of the Law: Like begets like. Feelings have whole patterns inherent within them that structure our experiences to create more of the same feeling . . . they are living forces that are “self” generating.
When we feel empty or lonely and we experience a kind of emotional overwhelm that causes desperation to rise up within us. This feeling of desperation becomes the ‘controlling idea”, which is the true creative power that motivates the intention that becomes expressed. Whatever we express, we first create and then experience our own creation. Desperation sets us on a quest than when fulfilled causes more feelings of desperation. When we engage in activities that we love doing and in turn cause us to feel content and stay present (don’t go out looking), we create experiences that cause us to feel love and contentment.
In my own experience, after going through periods of intense loneliness, while knowing better than to go out and try to find or intentionally engage in relationships to satisfy the loneliness, nothing ever seemed to come into my life. I began wondering and imagining all sorts of things, and began contemplating the reality of spending the rest of my life alone. When I did consider a couple of possibilities, I realized that they would have been more of what I experienced in the past that had caused me to feel painfully alone. So I passed on them, instead of engaging. I then fully accepted being alone, and decided to get on with my life and quit thinking about it.
Then, on an ordinary day, in an unexpected moment, I inadvertently ended up in a casual conversation with a man, that slowly began consuming me with a deep interest and feelings of fulfillment. I realized at first, that I loved talking to him, so I not only continued, but began looking forward to it. Within a very short period of time, I felt completely swept off my feet with how I felt inside as we came to know each other. How it happened and with whom it happened would have never even dawned on me had I tried to figure it out and then engaged in the activity of trying to make it happen. At no point in the whole process was ‘trying” involved. Everything about it was spontaneous and natural.
It’s the feeling that we have that motivates our desire that creates the action, which ultimately shapes the lesson by creating an experience that gives us more of that same feeling. We have to pay great attention to what is motivating our desires. We have a tendency to quest after things that are right next to us, waiting to be known. To understand attraction in its fundamental form is to realize that all desire has a multiple range for possible expression all of which exist in our immediate experience. The state that we are in at any given time, determines what we see and how we interpret it. All we really have to do, for the most part, is relax, focus on what we have, what we love doing, engage in doing it, and be willing to not only notice what shows up in our immediate experience, but be willing to turn around and start talking to it. Experiences are only possible through a two way interaction. The spark ignites the fire that warms our heart as it dances softly before us. With adoration and admiration in our heart and mind, we simply behold it and in the next moment we realize . . . we are it.
To truly attract is when we recognize in the feeling state of our environment that not only does like beget like but that we only perceive that which is like us. If we create out of our feelings of love, fulfillment and inner peace, we only notice what warrants those same qualities in others, and by being present with them, they become a shared experience and lead to the engagement of co-creating more of the same feelings. In the ultimate sense . . . all of life emerges as an expression of a feeling state.
Linda Gadbois, Ph.D.(c), CCHt., RMT
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