Rapport is the art of letting go of your self and becoming like another. It is letting go of needing to maintain your own individuality and instead allowing yourself to merge into the individuality of another. Give up your need to determine, control, interpret experiences through your own filters as personal values, beliefs, preferences, self-image, etc., and embodying the nature of someone or something else instead. To surrender is to create a neutral state that can perceive or conceive of the inner state of another. To become like another is to give up the concept of self and merge with the self concept of another. This allows deep insight into the true nature of others where we can actually experience our connection at a real level. Not just talk about it as a concept or idea that seems nice, and while we can grasp it in one sense, we don’t know how to actually experience it as a general rule.
Rapport represents the ultimate flexibility because we learn how to exist in a state of true surrender which allows us to take on the state of another life-form. We become like a reed, or neutral channel, not for an entity to posses or claim, but rather by merging and blending into the state of a desired force and experience it as they do. We can have their experience in our body, our consciousness is the same as theirs. To see the same thoughts and have the same emotional responses that gives their experience meaning as an individual reality.
The age-old idea of shape-shifting is the mastery of rapport by changing our inner state to the extent that it changes how we appear. How we seem. Our presence and way about us, how we feel, behave, the attitude we hold, all shift and take on the qualities of a different person. We actually experience ourselves in a very different way “as if” we actually are someone else. It is easy to see why this is the most natural way to transform ourselves. We transform by changing and growing while in a constant state of becoming. It is our ability to ‘sense” our self differently, and then identify with that feeling. Our identity is our constant state of consciousness. We allow new qualities to exist in us and form natural thought processes that are an expression of that quality, that allow us to perceive the world and ourselves in brand new ways.
Because our ability to perceive is based on our “self” as a sophisticated modeling of our self-concept, concept of others, and the world, as long as we hold that same model and maintain it as filtering mechanism for experience we are limited in our perceptions to what our models naturally and spontaneously produce. To let go of our self-perception and embrace fully another self-perception, without any resistance by allowing and surrendering our self to it, we can see and experience the same thing that their inner state feels and sees. By becoming the same as their nature, we can see through their eyes, feel with their heart, and perceive through their emotional filters. We see the same objective reality as something entirely different. Life itself appears new and strangely unknown.
Linda Gadbois, Ph.D.(c), CCHt.
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